Status: In a Relationship

Just a correction...I am not in a relationship now may that be complicated or happy relationship. I simply am not in for a relationship as of the moment. (lol)

What's with the title? The title is for the topic of my blog today...what is in when you are in a relationship.

When a relationship just started it is all heavens, and there just a few lucky ones who are able to be like that until the end. On the other hand, some experience the constant ups and downs that usually leads to break up.

Sometimes, being in a relationship is blissful. Couples tend to be so mushy with each other and even go with the PDAs. And when there is bliss, there is also times that the relationship is in a miserable state. And when constant misunderstanding happens, it is not healthy anymore.

I have here some pointers that I got through research... keys or ways on how to stop constant misunderstanding between couples (though i am not in one!)

• Don't Bring the Past --> First ever way to remember I guess and of course what we really need to learn. In a relationship, in order to top fighting and create misunderstandings is to stop bringing the past up. Remember, the past is the past. Keep it on where it should be. The more you bring it up means more fight and it would just lead the relationship to its worse state. Bringing up old memories will open up old wounds, and that has never ever been good to anybody.
• Don't Leave Things Unresolved --> This does not just apply to married couples but to every form of relationship. Leaving things unresolved or misunderstandings unclear will just leave both parties resentful and might be one of the reason to make the fight go longer.
• Learn to Accept Each Other --> Each one of us have our very own flaws and imperfections. We may be in a relationship with a guy who is not as sweet as other guys, who is not flowery with words or even those kind of guys who does not believe in mushy words and monthsaries or anniversaries. Or may be in a girl who doesn't stop nagging, a girl who is so uptight or that girl who is more macho than you are. When you love someone, flaws does not matter for you would accept him/her for what he/she is.
• Figure Out the Root of the Problem --> In your every fight there would always be a reason why it started. And once you'd figure that out that would really help in solving the indifference between you. It is tough to do that but it is all worth it.
• Own up to Your Part of the Fight --> Admit the fault if you are to blame, but it is healthier to admit your mistake than to deny it all the time.
• Ban the "BUT" --> 'But if you did this,' 'but if you did that,' eliminate the 'but' from your vocab when you are in a fight and you'll be way better off! 
• Is this a repeat performance? --> I know that issues come up, but do you constantly have the same fight? Over and over again? Do you think that could be a sign? If you are constantly having a fight that revolves around a certain thing that your spouse does, why not bring it up to them calmly to stop the fight?
• Remember What's Important --> Finally, you always want to keep in mind that your relationship is very important and that you two are together for a reason. It's hard to keep that in mind when you are fighting, but it's so important. While you might not feel like your relationship is amazing because of the constant fighting, there are tons of ways to stop fighting in your relationship, you just have to work at it. 

Relationship advice for getting through life’s ups and downs

• Don’t take out your problems on your partner. Life stresses can make us short tempered. If you are coping with a lot of stress, it might seem easier to snap at your partner. Fighting like this might initially feel like a release, but it slowly poisons your relationship. Find other ways to vent your anger and frustration.
• Some problems are bigger than both of you. Trying to force a solution can cause even more problems. Every person works through problems and issues in his or her own way. Remember that you’re a team. Continuing to move forward together can get you through the rough spots.
• Be open to change. Change is inevitable in life, and it will happen whether you go with it or fight it. Flexibility is essential to adapt to the change that is always taking place in any relationship, and it allows you to grow together through both the good times and the bad.
• Don’t ignore problems. Whatever problems arise in a romantic relationship, it’s important to face them together as a couple. If an aspect of the relationship stops working, don’t simply ignore it, but instead address it with your partner. Things change, so respond to them together as they do.